|Available to:||I'm hetero|
|What is my sex:||Female|
|What is my favourite drink:||Champagne|
|I like to listen:||Classical|
|I like piercing:||None|
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Male entitlement is an abuse of power, plain and simple. These attitudes stem from the feeling that women owe men something. You can tell this movie was written and directed by men because despite exhibiting the behavior of a stalker, he still gets the girl.
These pop culture references are certainly part of the problem, and that behavior should not be romanticized. You should practice being more comfortable asking those sorts of questions.
So what? Move on. This past weekend, I was at my favorite coffee shop grinding away on asments.
I was sitting at the bar when a man sat down next to me. After about 10 minutes, I felt a hand on my shoulder.
I was cracking my knuckles at the time, and I grew up in a very particular environment where that sort of thing was frowned on, so I took my headphone out, ready to apologize for the unsavory noise and get back to work. It might be triggering for some people.
Find a different way to get their attention if you must. To my surprise, he asked me what I was working on. Clearly this man thought what he had to say to me was important enough that he decided he should not only put his hands on me, but he should also interrupt my work.
Regardless of whether he was doing it consciously or not, this is an example of male entitlement. I can only say that based on my life experiences, I knew where this coffee shop interaction was headed. I know this man wanted something from me because right before I decided it was time to leave, he asked if we could be friends, and when I said no, he followed up by asking if we could make plans to hang out.
Nothing about this interaction would, in my opinion, be characterized as innocent or good-natured. So close. Modern dating culture has certainly empowered women.
Sure, the actions of the man I met at the coffee shop are considered socially acceptable, but they still convey the belief that women should tolerate unwanted advances. In my experience, straight, cis-gendered men have a hard time confronting things that could lead to a potential rejection, despite these being appropriate mechanisms to dismantling the system of their own entitlement.
If you identify as a man, take time to reflect on how you benefit from being a man and how it informs your actions. Acknowledge the space you take up in all facets: physically, emotionally and verbally. Then put the work in to make a difference. Madison Thompson can be reached at letters collegian.
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